Rules dating friends friends
The reverse is also true; no matter how much you love discussing your dude with your besties, his ex can probably live without hearing the details of his current sex life.Save it for your diary or for anyone who didn't date him.2. It's OK to come to your partner for advice if you're arguing with your friend, or vice versa, but absolutely resist the urge to belittle or insult one of them to the other.
They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding. There are our college friends, our BFFs since we can remember, work-colleagues-turned-friends, and everything in between.For the most part, those parties don’t mingle all too often.Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.
I can count the degrees of hookup separation between my closest friends and myself, and usually come up with no more than two or three.
“This is the most random group of people ever,” they would joke.
In my head, however, I believed that everyone would get along.
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
If you are an angel like me and have set up some friends, here are some ground rules to follow so you don’t become that dreaded middle line of communication. Don’t pull a Gretchen Weiners and reveal all of one of your friend’s secrets to the other.